Wellness

Best Way to Start Being Kind to Myself

I transferred colleges about three-and-a-half years ago, moved an hour-and-a-half away from my home town, and pursued better educational aspirations. I love this university, but since then, I've noticed my self-esteem steadily declining - and now that I'm a senior, I've noticed that it has hit rock bottom. It happened so gradually that I didn't notice it was happening until I was completely miserable.

A few things I attribute to this is the loss of my friends from my hometown, my isolation in this new town, the loss of a two-year romantic relationship, and the general atmosphere in this new university - by which I mean everyone is very successful, young, has more accomplishments, and don't have a chronic illness like I do. Students are able to make friends, study abroad, and experience the full university spectrum while I'm dealing with illness and worrying about bills. I'm also the oldest person in my classes - something that I never experienced before I transferred.

So now that I've pinpointed all of these things that are crushing my self-esteem, I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm a little overwhelmed on where to start fixing my outlook on things. Does anyone have experience with this swift loss of self-esteem/self-confidence? I would like to finish out my last semester on a good note, but where do I start improving?

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