Should I cook at my MIL's house

I like to eat healthy and feed my kids healthy foods. When we visit my MIL, she wants to cook all of the nostalgic meals that she made for my husband when he was little, and he likes this too. The foods are not healthy and I don't like them. When she comes to my house, I want to cook but she also controls what we all eat as a family at my house. How should I handle this, my husband is very defensive about his mom.

Snooping Mother-In-Law

From time to time I have my mother-in-law come over to babysit my children and EVERY time, I come home to a brand-spanking clean home, not that I leave anything particularly dirty. I know she cleans my house under the premise of being helpful but really she's just nosing around my home. I've asked nicely for her not to do any cleaning, because at first my requests were too soft and she insisted she LOVED helping out and doing "a bit" of cleaning for me. Now I'm at the point that I don't ask her anymore to babysit. But admittedly, babysitters are cutting into my budget and I would like to ask my MIL to babysit again. Now...do I talk to her? And how?

Should I cut ties with my Mother-in-law?

I don't get along with my Mother-in-law. She has been rude to me for years and I'm ready to cut ties with her. My husband still wants to see her and have our children visit her. I would love not to go but I feel like I have to be there because she is rude to my kids and my husband doesn't always catch it. Should I skip the visits?

Inlaw Opinions

About two months ago, my husband and I had dinner with his parents. The conversation over dinner turned to a political discussion about global warming and fracking. Through most of the conversation I bit my tongue, but then I finally had to say something because I worried that my silence was giving the impression that I agreed with the positions being presented. My in-laws live in a very large home and I suggested they are being a bit hypocritical living in such a large home that they heat while advocating that fracking should be banned. I really thought my comment was respectful, but my mother-in- law felt insulted and left the table. My mother-in- law has told my husband that she felt insulted and has not invited us to dinner since. We used to have dinner with my husband’s parents a few times a month. My husband wants me to apologize to smooth things over. But I don’t think I said anything that I for which I should have to apologize. Should I apologize? Please add any advice in the comments section.

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