Out Of Nowhere Kiss Attempt

So I'm about a month away from officially filing for divorce. My children seem to be stable and happy and adjusting well to all the changes. Shared custody is working out so far. I am ready for a clean break and am looking forward to being officially divorced sometime in the new year. I thought my soon-to-be-ex-husband felt the same way. But this weekend when he came to pick the kids up, he tried to kiss me! On the lips. What the HECK?! I pulled away like he was on fire, and stuttered a bit and ran into my house and locked the door. AWKWARD?! I have NO intention of ever kissing him on the lips again. What was that? Is he crazy? Do I have to talk to him about what happened?

Wedding Rings: Who Cares?

My husband lost his wedding ring while playing in a lake with our kids. I stopped wearing mine awhile back because it scratches my finger. My parents expressed shock that we didn't seem immediately concerned with replacing his ring, and getting mine fixed. I have conflicting feelings. I wrestle with the class issues inherent in a splashy piece of jewelry, my husband's not a big fan of jewelry, and I have other things I feel we should spend our money on. What should we do?

Which wedding tradition is a money waster?

Wedding planning is insane...there’s no way I’m spending anywhere near the $30k average! I’m more frugal than my partner and he wants more of the “traditional” regalia than I do, so I’m being mindful of this, but I don’t want it to go off the deep end. Which of these big-ticket items should I fight to cut from the budget?

Should i move in with him?

concernedcitizen's Side

He asked me to marry him. We are engaged. He thinks that means I should move in with him now. But I am worried that if I move in that he will stall on marrying me.

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rockster8's Side

We need to get married in order to start having kids. This will be a shorter engagement 💍 than most.

Kids or Spouse First?

I recently posted a link to a blog on 10 Most Important Marriage Tips for Wives. To my surprise, the one that received the most negative comments was this one [slightly abridged as noted]:

"God, husband, kids…in that order. - I know this isn't a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. . . . [Y]our husband should come before your kids. Now . . . no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means. When you board an airplane . . . , passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts."

To me this is absolutely a no-brainer (and goes for husbands too, of course). I now know the author is right "this isn't a popular philosophy." But am I and the author really wrong here, and can anyone explain to me why? This seems so basic and essential to me that I can't fathom what the alternate rationale could be.

20th Wedding Anniversary

My husband and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary in August, it was a busy time with family and we didn't celebrate in the big way we had always planned on with a weekend getaway just the two of us. Is it too late to try and get away, and what would be a good destination in the midwest area.

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