EverydayQuandary | 2h | 0 votes | 0 comments

He Left Her

Well. My sister decided not to move out of her place that she shared with her boyfriend. She insisted on staying by his side and “helping him” in his recovery from his motorcycle accident. Even though he asked for some space to deal with the news that he will never be able to have children as a result of his injuries.

And so HE left. He told her that she deserves better than him, because he’s broken, quite literally. Sigh.

My sister is inconsolable right now. She believes he will come back. She believes they are soul mates. She now regrets not having listened to him and given him the space he asked for. I don’t think he will ever come back to her. He probably needs therapy of his own to work out his issues. Do I tell her this?! I feel so bad for her!

monvar117 | 1w | 14 votes | 2 comments

Do I move back across the world for him?

I recently lived in Australia with a boyfriend I had been traveling with for 6 months. After a few months in Australia, I left to solo travel Asia while he stayed in Australia to work. We've recently been having troubles, resulting in taking a break and seeing where things go. I was originally planning to move back to Australia for him, because he has to work and can't come to America. However, the entire time I was away traveling in Asia, he was constantly telling me he was jealous of me and lonely, never asking how my travels were going, and our conversations were draining, everything was about him and how horrible his job was. I feel freer and happier now that I'm on my own again, and I'm not sure I want to go back to someone so restraining. I also don't want to move back across the world for someone like that and give up my own travels and time.

EverydayQuandary | 3w | 12 votes | 2 comments

Can't Have Children

My sister’s live-in boyfriend of six years is in recovery after a motorcycle accident and his physical therapy is going well. Unfortunately, his private parts were severely damaged and basically crushed and after many surgeries, it seems he will never have full function again. He will not be able to give her children. She told him it’s okay, that they can always adopt, and that they can work out some way to be intimate and stay in love and still be with each other. I know he was planning on proposing to her before the accident happened, because he’d asked me to help him pick out a ring. Now he barely talks to my sister or looks at her and tells her she should leave because she deserves better than him. It breaks my heart seeing them both like this. I know he still loves her. She loves him so much. But he thinks he’s doing the right thing by pushing her away. They have been to therapy but it’s not helping and he’s growing more distant every day. My mother thinks maybe it would be best if my sister did move out and move on. I cry every day, for her and for him. My sister and I are only a year apart and super close. She asked me what I thought. I don’t know what I’m supposed to tell her.

anonon | 8w | 18 votes | 1 comment

Should I return my ex's gift?

I recently received an anonymous gift from Amazon. This by itself doesn't surprise me since I have a public wish list for my public following.

The thing is, everything on my wish list had disappeared within the span of one or two days a week earlier, and I'm pretty sure it's my ex who got them for me. After that happened, I added an expensive item (a laptop) to see if something with a ridiculous price tag would still get gifted.

It showed up on my doorstep within days. I want to have doubts about who would be willing to shell out so much for a gift, but I'm pretty sure it's my ex.

I don't know what his motivations are. We haven't spoken in a long time. I know he's not over me, but I made it clear that it's impossible for us to get back together. I don't want to reach out to him, because I purposely kept channels of communications closed after I made my intentions clear (in hopes he'd get over me quicker).

Should I keep or return his gift?

NormalDude | 13 Dec, 2013 | 8 votes | 4 comments

Lord of all he surveys

I am engaged to a girl that I have been together with for four years. Several times in our relationship we have broken up and during one of these times she slept with a guy who has been a long term friend and still continues to be a long term friend.

This friend is in a different state and never visits so it is purely an Internet thing. Sometimes I feel she has a closer friendship with him than with me, but at the same time I feel she is totally loyal and devoted to me, and never gives me any reason to doubt our relationship. The other side of this is that I KNOW the guy has no girlfriend, is a bit of a home-body and I feel he is still into her in a big way.

In my girl's mind I feel she thinks this is just a friendship and she has absolutely no other feelings for him, but I am certain that he does have strong feelings for her. He talks to her literally every day on chat and often I feel their dialog is stronger than my own. I have shared my feelings with her about this so she knows I don't feel totally comfortable but I don't feel it is right to ask her to stop a friendship she has had longer than she has known me. She is supportive of my feelings and is understanding. She also has said that she would not be as supportive as I am if the situation were reversed.

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