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Is it normal for teens stay in thier room?
Ah do I miss the days when they were young. So easy to please, happy for just about anything you do for them, always inquisitive, and always a joy to be around. But then one day something happens, they become teenagers and suddenly they are aliens. I never see my teens anymore, they come to the kitchen and bathroom, but other than that they are in their rooms. I have tried to change the behavior, but it is too much of a struggle, and I feel that I am pushing them further away.
Is this something they just grow out of, or something I should be concerned about?
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My brother told me my pjs are too skimpy…
Ok, I’m 20 years old and I just moved back home with my parents and my brother. Out of the blue the other day, my brother told me my pajamas were too skimpy and I should have a bit more decency since I don't live alone. Just to clarify, my pjs might be a little revealing, but I literally only wear them in my room by myself when I’m getting ready to go to sleep. The only reason he saw them was because I went to the bathroom half asleep one night and didn’t think anyone would be up, so I didn’t put my robe on. Anyway, now he’s making a big deal out of it, asking my parents what they think, and I’m just super annoyed. I don’t think I’m in the wrong here. Like if I wore them to breakfast, I’d understand, but I always throw on my robe if I leave my room before I change. I just want to know who’s right here.
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Wanting A Kid
My husband and I have tried to get pregnant for awhile. It just hasn't work. We have tried fertilization techniques still, but nothing. Now, we are going with word of mouth of adoption. But, this process seems to take too long. Should we just get an agency to work towards adoption? Any stories will help.
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Travel for Thanksgiving?
I want to see my family, it has been a long tought year. But I am not sure if it is worth driiving across state for 5 hours during a pandemic, or if its even a safe thing to do. Of course my fmaily wants me home, but I don't want any of to be at risk. What are the rest of you doing this year to celebrate?
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Let my kid pull my hair?
I’m a guy with below the ear curly hair. I have a 6mo LO who loves to pull on my hair, and even pull my face to hers to give me a “kiss.” I love it.
But, I’m afraid this is setting a bad norm for her. She’s starting to pull everyone’s hair! What should I do?
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The Grinch Who Stole Xmas
I have 5 kids and Christmas time can get pretty expensive. My second oldest child does a lot of extracurricular activities with his school that cost a ton of money. Trips to Boston, Montreal and Chicago are just some of the places he has gone. I have spent thousands of dollars to support these activities. Is it OK if I spend a lot less on him for Christmas than I do for my other children?
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Missing my mom
So, my husband and I moved to a completley different state about 4 hours away from home and I really miss my mom, like, a ton. She's my best friend. We talk 4 times a day even if we have nothing to say. I resent my husband for moving us so far away, especially since I protested it for a long time. Now I'm in a completley different sapce (I grew up in the city and now we're in farmland), with no friends and no mom. It's not the same talking to her on the phone and sometimes I cry because it's been so long since I've seen her. I know it sounds clinggy, but I have a great relationship with her that my husband just doesn't understand. Any tips on how to manage this?
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Dealing with Racist Grandpa at Thanksgiving
Let me just start off by saying that I love my family. My cousins and I are all around the same age and we always have such a fun time when we're hanging out together. Holidays with my fam are usually nice and chill as long as the conversation stays away from political topics, which isn't always easy. The cousins and I are all somewhere on the liberal scale, while our parents mostly lean conservative. The parents aren't usually the problem, though. It's grandpa who ends up taking things too far and making sweeping generalizations about entire races of people. It's the kind of ingrained racism that can't be argued away with patience or logic and it always makes the rest of us very uncomfortable. I almost want to skip Thanksgiving this year and throw a Friendsgiving or something, but I know it would really disappoint my parents and cousins.
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Monster-in-law
My mother in law and I have never, ever gotten along. We are polar opposites on every spectrum from money to fashion to family, etc. Even my husband and the rest of our family understands that 80% of the time we just can't be in the same room with each other. When it starts we just can't stop screaming until one of us storms out of the room. Lately, however, she's been really plesant, but I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop and she'll come back with avengance. I'm not sure what the deal is, but I'm still having trouble looking past the no-good things she's done to me in the past, thoughts?
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Cousin Making Dangerous Choices
My cousin (who is like a sister to me) is 24 years old and has a 5 year old son. She's an amazing single mom and has always put her son first, but she recently disclosed to my mom that she intends to travel all the way to the Philippines with her 5 year old. She told my mom that it's part of a teaching experience for her online college degree, but she keeps calling it a vacation, and the facts aren't adding up. There's a guy from the Philippines on her Facebook, and his profile says he's dating her, but her profile doesn't say she's dating him. She's never mentioned him, and it's really concerning.
She also said she won't tell her dad she's going until 2 days before she plans to leave. It's all extremely suspicious, and I'm worried she's being lured to a foreign country by a guy she's never met before. Even the best case scenario is she is going down there on a legitimate "teaching experience," but she's an anti-vaxxer, so her 5 year old son is going to be exposed to foreign diseases in another country that he doesn't have the immune system to fight off.
She's 24 years old and there's no way to stop her from doing whatever she wants, but my mom and I don't feel it's right to do and say nothing when there are so many red flags going off. We're the only ones in the family who know, because she doesn't trust anyone else. If we break her trust, we're concerned she will have no one left in the family that she trusts, and she won't come to us anymore if she needs help. But we can't do nothing, right?
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$500 on a wedding? I barely know you!
My cousin's getting married. I'm happy for him, but I barely know him. I've met his bride twice. I'd love to be a part of their big day, but the wedding is six hours away by car, and I'm a single mom to a two year old son.
Here's my problem. If I don't go, my parents and other family members will be incredibly disappointed in me.
If I leave my son with a sitter overnight and fly in, it will cost me at least $560 for the flight, sitter and gift.
If I drive, the cost falls to $385 for gas, sitter and gift.
If I drive and take my son with me to save on the sitter, I will arrive exhausted and frazzled from driving alone for seven hours with a toddler screaming in the back seat. This option will cost about $185.
It seems like no matter what I do, I'm screwed. Not to mention that I don't even have the $500 to spend.
What would you do?
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