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Should I believe my friend when it come to my ex?
My last relationship ended about four months ago. I was still in contact with my ex, because he was trying to get back with me (yes, I know, it's stupid, but I thought he understood what it meant by "platonic friendship" would be the furthest we would get). I found out from him that he's been hanging out with my friend. Apparently she reached out to him a couple months back, around the time I told her that I was experimenting with Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Now, this friend, when I told her about the breakup, made me doubt myself. She kept asking why we couldn't work it out. She thinks he's a nice guy, and that we could work any relationship trouble out if we cared about each other. She's adamant that he cares about me and can work it out. After that conversation we had, she stopped contacting me first. Each conversation after that was initiated by me.
He, on the other hand, was invited to get ramen with her. She invited him to go to some house previewing tour, etc.
I asked her about it, she said that it's because she views the both of us as good friends. He helped her out for a month when her car broke down, and they developed a friendship that way. So, she just wants to console him, and help him get over the breakup (because obviously I'm the one who's over it).
Should I believe it's as innocent as "helping a friend" or is she trying to be soemthing more to him?