I think it really depends on a person to person basis. One thing that my girlfriend and I did when we first starting dating was to talk about what it would mean to us. I think as long as you bring up the topic in relation to asking him what his definition of a committed relationship is and explain what it is to you then you should be able to both find out what he thinks without feeling like you are pushing for the commitment too early. Hope this helps in some way, good luck!

Either way, you should talk about it. Be open about where you are at and what you’re ultimately looking for. It’s about you, not him. The right guy will jump on board.

i'm in the same boat!

I'd say it really depends on how much you think you like this new girl. While I, myself, am not a fan of dating people with no intention of starting a relationship, that's just me. So I think you have to ask yourself, is this a person you could see forming a long-term relationship with and do they feel the same. If so, and if you feel like your old relationship might sour the new one then you owe it to yourself and to the new girl to be honest with yourself and talk to her about it. Just my two cents.

This is really a personal decision based on if you’re ok with an open relationship or not.

Every relationship is different. As long as both of you wanted it, then, of course, there is nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. Plus like you said, yea it was the first real date, but it's not like it was the first time you'd "met" each other so to speak.

I’d never had sex on a first date until this one time when it felt right and I rolled with it. That guy is now my husband.

I appreciate the input!!!

Tell them, but if there's no hope in the situation, don't remain friends. Don't waste your time. Remaining friends could end up hurting you.

I've never seen any research that suggests what you said. However, I do know of research that suggests that while both men and women will actively search out the "best" "most attractive" mate, they are actually likely to wind up with someone of approximately the same level of attractiveness of themselves. That, of course, neglects any of the more important features like personality, sense of humor, etc. My advice, don't focus too much on the level of attractiveness. I don't think you're ever gonna be able to choose someone who you see an unattractive, but remember that being with someone is more about how you feel when with someone than what either of you physically look like.

Chemistry is usually a mix of physical attraction and "clicking" with someone's personality. If you aren't attracted to someone, you can't really force it. Date whoever you like!

Thank you so much for your take!!!

I think you have a few more options other than just a gift card or a ring... Also if someone spends over $1000 on you, especially if it can't be returned, then I think it would be rude to refuse it. If you can't afford something money wise that equals it, try to do something extra thoughtful instead. For example, my girlfriend loves outdoor activities, such as camping and hiking. So if she bought me something really nice and I knew I couldn't repay it in $$ I'd try to plan something like a camping excursion that I know she'd love just as much if not more than some trinket.

He needs to be introduced in a much more casual way. Friendsgiving is way too stimulating, too many new people. But maybe your friendsgiving are different from mine

I ended up not doing it. I'm glad.

Part of it is texting is just how things are now BUT if he’s already unwilling to be open and compromise I’m guessing he’s a jerk.

Speaking from personal experience I wouldn't jump to bad conclusions. Some people just hate talking on the phone. I personally have phone anxiety. A good test on if he's cheating/hiding something is if he's willing to give you his social media/Facebook.

Dating has changed, people don't really talk on the phone until it gets serious. Texting is pretty normal in the beginning. I thought it was weird when I was newly single too.

Thanks for the input!!!

Wow. None of you so far think I'd ever actually meet someone decent? 😂 Very telling!