I think it really depends on a person to person basis. One thing that my girlfriend and I did when we first starting dating was to talk about what it would mean to us. I think as long as you bring up the topic in relation to asking him what his definition of a committed relationship is and explain what it is to you then you should be able to both find out what he thinks without feeling like you are pushing for the commitment too early. Hope this helps in some way, good luck!

Either way, you should talk about it. Be open about where you are at and what you’re ultimately looking for. It’s about you, not him. The right guy will jump on board.

i'm in the same boat!

I'd say it really depends on how much you think you like this new girl. While I, myself, am not a fan of dating people with no intention of starting a relationship, that's just me. So I think you have to ask yourself, is this a person you could see forming a long-term relationship with and do they feel the same. If so, and if you feel like your old relationship might sour the new one then you owe it to yourself and to the new girl to be honest with yourself and talk to her about it. Just my two cents.

This is really a personal decision based on if you’re ok with an open relationship or not.

People can change. It sounds like he told you this early on in the relationship? Maybe he is trying to be honest & build something stable with you. Keep the lines of communication open & listen to your intuition. Maybe talk with him about how you both can deal with it if he does start to desire sleeping with men or other women during your relationship, so that he doesn’t feel that he needs to keep secrets.

Every relationship is different. As long as both of you wanted it, then, of course, there is nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. Plus like you said, yea it was the first real date, but it's not like it was the first time you'd "met" each other so to speak.

I’d never had sex on a first date until this one time when it felt right and I rolled with it. That guy is now my husband.

I appreciate the input!!!

Don't do that!

Tell them, but if there's no hope in the situation, don't remain friends. Don't waste your time. Remaining friends could end up hurting you.

I've never seen any research that suggests what you said. However, I do know of research that suggests that while both men and women will actively search out the "best" "most attractive" mate, they are actually likely to wind up with someone of approximately the same level of attractiveness of themselves. That, of course, neglects any of the more important features like personality, sense of humor, etc. My advice, don't focus too much on the level of attractiveness. I don't think you're ever gonna be able to choose someone who you see an unattractive, but remember that being with someone is more about how you feel when with someone than what either of you physically look like.

Chemistry is usually a mix of physical attraction and "clicking" with someone's personality. If you aren't attracted to someone, you can't really force it. Date whoever you like!

Thank you so much for your take!!!