I waited until 40 :) sometimes you just have bigger fish to fry and Kamala definitely did and still does!

I don't care what two consenting grown people do in their home. Let them be happy.

The only person's who sexuality concerns me is my own

I have no experience with this, so take my answer however you'd like, but I'm betting that it was somewhere between an attempt to show you that he still cares about you (misguided as that may be) and an old habit that had the misfortune of popping up at an inopportune time. I'd just talk to him about it, ask him what he was thinking and then tell him that he's never to do it again. Make sure that he knows that, mistake or not it's never to happen again.

I'm with FitnessTrainer. Part accident/habit, and probably a lingering feeling of love for you as you shuffled the kids out the door. I assume you have good reasons for the divorce, a single kiss attempt doesn't begin to say " I still love you."

Oh man. Thanks. All input is welcome.

I went through a divorce early in my 20s. At the time, I was devastated, especially since my other half had no intention of reconciling. I would say reconcile if you can. But, then again, I found somebody, later on in life, who was willing to make things work, even with my baggage. Best of luck!

Adding to my "order out for myself" vote + don't forget to order for her too. Maybe suggest an order out night where you take care of dinner.

You should take over the cooking.

Find out why her cooking is bad. 1. Does she just not care for cooking and doing it out of obligation? If so, take over cooking or split the responsibility so she can put more heart/effort into what she does cook. 2. Is she bad cuz she doesn't really know how? If so, sign up for a cooking class that you can take together, so she can improve. 3. Does she really think her food tastes good to her? If so, pull up a few recipes that you know you like, walk it through with her so she knows your preferences, so you'll have some foods you enjoy eating.

I found this hard to answer because what I really wanted to answer was Cook Yourself, I am a man and I often cook for my girlfriend or split the cooking with her (like I make the main dish and she makes a side dish or vice versa). So if the cooking is that bad, learn to cook yourself, then if your food is good teach her to cook how you do. Hell, you could even take cooking classes together, great couple activity plus you'll both learn to make some delicious food together.

Why can't YOU cook? Or at least prepare something and have her finish the cooking part of it? Or anything in between that's not so extreme?

Cook for yourself !!

I am very busy working on creating a business for myself and my family. I wish my wife would pine to watch the cooking network the way she want s to watch Dancing with the Stars.

If you don't have time and her cooking is terrible, eat sandwiches. Or stuff from Trader Joes that you just heat up. Or salads.

Please just tell her and ask her 1) does she like cooking? 2) if not, can you find another alternative. 3) if so, can we invest in cooking lessons?

Cook for youself, busy or no. Cook WITH your wife. Make suggestions while cooking together, if it turns out well, maybe she’ll use the new techniques.

So.... in 20 years you never picked up the pots and pans yourself? I cook for us because it's a stress reliever, not because of an expectation. On a less bitchy note, try stuff like Mediterranean and lighter Italian cuisine-- the ingredients shine through on their own and leave less to screw up. Keep it simple.

Maybe try taking a cooking class together, suggesting meals you would like to try complete with recipes, or share the cooking duties either by cooking together or cook a whole meal a few nights a week.

I signed up for an account just to say "take over some cooking" as well. I selected suck it up because it was the best alternative. Maybe if you tried cooking -with- her you could identify problem habits and give constructive criticism, not "it's nasty." Is it an ingredient issue? An equipment issue? Technique? Lack of palette on her end? Boredom from your end with the same repeated recipes? Maybe try a trial of one of those delivery services that sends you a fresh box of ingredients portioned out for a recipe. Make it with her, hold on to the recipes to replicate if you find something you love.

Has he ever considered signing them both up for cooking classes? This wasn't an option that's why I clicked what I did. But if they both go, she won't feel insulted and he'll hopefully gain a wife that can cook better which benefits them both.

teach her step by step how to cook, see if she has learn disability

I think you should just taking cooking lessons together!

you wasted 20 years of your life on a woman who's cooking is fucking terrible? you're a joke man

Marriage is solely about you and your husband. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Sounds like your relationship is solid enough that you don't need rings to know that you are married.

I say this as someone who is not and has never been married, but it is still my belief that while it's nice to show that you love someone by spending a lot of money on them it is actually pretty impractical to carry something like that around all the time, especially if it's uncomfortable. I met a couple recently that never even bothered with the typical iconic wedding bands but decided on something a little more cost effective and personal. They got matching simple bands with their favorite comic book character's logo on it. So I say, talk to your husband and figure out something that you will both like that is more cost effective and maybe that you both can get like custom made so that you know it's going to be comfortable. That's certainly what I'm gonna try and do when I get married. Hopefully, my girlfriend will go for it hahaha

I'd call it a toss-up between replacement with a cheaper option and doing nothing, purely because it's easy to get too hyperfocused on the ring and not focused enough on the state of the marriage. If your relationship is a healthy one, who cares about a piece of jewelry?

I just got married in May. Instead of hiring a professional photographer, I assigned friends and families different clips of the day/night and had a YouTube account for them to upload. I can't believe how many videos we got and they were so good!

One of my cousins had a BYOB arrangement for the reception and it was fine. It kept his costs down.

I know it's a smaller thing and won't take much away from the cost but for me the part I'm likely gonna hopefully skip out on (as long as the girlfriend agrees, you know) is expensive wedding rings. Like I'm all for something that looks nice but I don't like the whole it has to be a diamond wedding ring for the woman, I'm hoping I can do something else that's cool but less expensive like getting a ring made out of our birthstones (since we share the same one) or at least a ring with the birthstone set in it instead of a diamond. Then I could get one for myself so it's still sentimental but nowhere near as expensive.